Seeing as it's , I'd like to remind you that singular they/them are genderless pronouns by definition. These do not refer exclusively to any nonbinary gender identities, and do not belong to nonbinary people.

They/them can be used for anyone and everyone.

If you don't know what someone's preferred pronouns are, using they/them is always a gramatically correct choice, because these words refer simply to "this one person"

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Try to remember that some people have a more complicated relationship with pronouns than you do.

Encouraging people in give pronouns in their bio is nice, but try not to be so heavy handed. It's rude to insist.

Instead, consider normalising the use of they/them for anyone who doesn't explicitly state their pronouns.

This post brought to you by that one enby who kinda dislikes using pronouns and tends to try and avoid them, due to preferences changing from time to time.

They/them is normally my preference.
I'm usually ok with she/her.
He/him is sometimes acceptable.
I don't know how I feel about any others.

(The lack of personal pronouns is a big part of why I like Japanese. And I wonder if the excessively gendered language might be part of why I don't seem to get on with French.)

@InvaderXan Yet Japanese traditional and modern culture is heavily patriarchal. One thing I always asked myself is, are we missing a point focusing just on language?

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is it still:
- couple of men : ils
- couple of women : elles
- couple of women and one man : ils?
this infuriated me in french class in secondary school

@StroomAfwaarts Yeah, that always bothered me too. Take 100 women and 1 man, and you need to say ils.

@pantransautie In modern Japanese, these are only ever used when talking about your boyfriend or girlfriend

@InvaderXan ah, Finnish is beautiful in it's indifference about gender

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Please? Like, this a lot. I'd prefer if there was a neutral default for when you don't know somebody's gender instead of having to out myself to strangers.

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