A few things to think about before jumping into someone else's mentions:
✅ Am I being contrarian? ✅ Do I already have a relationship with this person, or am I being inappropriately familiar? ✅ Am I "ironically" doing exactly what this person just said not to do? ✅ Am I derailing another discussion in order to get on my own favourite hobby-horse or to one-up this person or show off how aware I am of social issues? ✅ Am I about to say "Are you surprised?" when someone is disappointed?
@bgcarlisle I ask myself the second one every time I interact with anyone, it's a constant source of anxiety. 😖 It's a good question! I just wish I had better social intuition for knowing the right answer.