"I am tired of fighting my friends. I am tired of trying to convince them that I matter as much as their romantic interests and partners. In many ways who we choose to love is also a decision of who we invest in, and who we distribute the resources necessary to keep one another alive—including care.
We can stop politicizing desire when we stop distributing our love and care based on it"
Romantic Love is Killing Us: Who Takes Care of Us When We Are Single? by Caleb Luna
Okay I’m actually really mad at Tootdon for not supporting image captioning and it is insulting and ableist as fuck that only some apps have image captioning on iPhone. It’s destructive to the culture of this website, and rude as fuck to your friends, who aren’t going to get as easily noticed for their disability as you think.
Consuming media as an aro person is hard. Even if the ending is good, I spend the whole time bracing myself for the message that love is happiness, that a life without it is tragic, that it's what makes us whole. And sitting there scared that I'm going to leave feeling empty is terrible. And maybe the ending is good and doesn't fall into all of the above, but I still held my breath the whole time, worried that, yet again, I'll be told I'm sad, inhuman, incomplete.
I’ve been attending Quaker meetings for a few months now. They do a round of introductions after announcements. I started including my pronouns in my introduction and proposed that they add it to the standard piece.
I’ve had two other young people start doing it and two older people who are really involved in the meeting (which gives me hope it’ll catch on).
And today they included a “you can share your pronouns if you wish” in the standard preamble and I’m just so happy!!!
aro culture is never ever using the red heart emoji. instead you only use the yellow heart💛 (for friend love) and the green heart💚 (for aro love)
#SunDIY: Oats Recipe Thread — Granola Show more
Start to finish: 30 minutes
4 cups rolled oats or other rolled grains
½ teaspoon cinnamon or other spices (optional)
½ cup oil or melted butter
½ cup honey
1 teaspoon vanilla or other flavor extract
1 cup nuts
1 cup dried fruit
🌾 Preheat oven to 325°. In a large bowl, combine rolled oats and nuts and sprinkle with salt and optional cinnamon. In a separate measuring cup or small bowl, mix oil, honey and vanilla extract. Pour honey mixture over oats and toss to coat.
🌾 Line a roasting pan with parchment paper to prevent sticking, and spread oat mixture over bottom in a thin, even layer. Bake for 20-30 minutes, stirring every 5-10 minutes, until oats look golden. Add dried fruit after mixture is cool. Store granola in an airtight container.
🌾 Suggested Flavor Combos: Cranberry-Walnut, Coconut-Pecan
reminder: you get to decide what your aromanticism means to you. you get to decide what makes you aro.
Useful Ace/Aro Spec Terms (how come I didn't find these till now??) Show more
So we all know what a crush is...
but there's also:
Swish: aesthetic crush
Lush: sensual crush
Smush: sexual crush
Plush: want to be in a queer platonic relationship with someone
Squish: In the asexual community, the equivalent of a "crush", but explicitly lacking an interest in forming a romantic couple or having a sexual relationship with the person in question. I'm guessing its feeling platonic or alterous attraction towards someone
This reporter blocked each of the five "tech giants" for a week—
Then, for the 6th week, she blocked all five for a whole week! https://gizmodo.com/i-cut-the-big-five-tech-giants-from-my-life-it-was-hel-1831304194
Here's how to try it yourself: https://gizmodo.com/want-to-really-block-the-tech-giants-heres-how-1832261612
Gentle reminder that being "self-sufficient" and a "self-starter," and pulling yourself up by your bootstraps, and even just living on your own and expected to be able to do everything for yourself, is actually a highly unnatural state of affairs for human beings which only became the norm in a small number of countries less than a century ago.
Nonamory: A lifestyle choice or relationship style that does not include intimate, long-term partnerships, whether romantic or platonic.
Nonamory is a word that came from #aromantic communities. but i certainly don't think it's a term exclusve to us
I think of it more as an approach to relationships that isn't monogamy and also isn't polyamory (which are so often presented as the only two possible settings)
@socalledunitedstates It's from the tarot series for Tactics Ogre. The artist is Akihito Yoshida.
She/her, 22, aroace lesbian, white, cis, Canadian leftist, queer feminism, flowers and vintage
Sunbeam City is a Libertarian Socialist solarpunk instance. It is ran democratically by a cooperative of like-minded individuals.