okay I know we love to post about gay hand-holding and mutual admiration under a 'lewd' CW or whatever but it's actually really good when people have gay sex. yes, the weird kind. yes, dirty and casual and un-fluffy. gay sexuality is often intense and raw and physical, and that's a moral good worth celebrating
there are actually a huge number of boomers who exclusively go by chosen names (Junior, Bubba, Doc, etc) and iʼve definitely heard stories of them getting frustrated by not being able to use those names in official circumstances. humans have been changing their names and going by nicks & epithets for the entirety of chronicled human history; going by Your Legal Name In All Circumstances is largely a Gen Xer thing.
when you see organizations accepting chosen names over legal names, donʼt think of it as a change in social norms. itʼs more just a cultural remembering that bureaucracy doesnʼt define who we are. draw power from that history.
The reason we don't like lablling relationships is because to be made aware of the relationship you have to each individual you meet is a very heavy task. It takes work to be mindful of every soul you touch, no one accomplishes it 100%. And it also means we'd have to look at the relationships we are forced to make. With coworkers. Fellow commuters. Bosses. Food servers. And how we have built in language that dehumanizes these relationships and erases the damge that does.
"When could my body finally be mine? Not existing for someone else’s gaze but for the raw pleasures it gave me? I saw the ease with which men move their physical bodies through the universe and felt jealous. I saw women performing femininity better than me and felt jealous, too."
Yes, autism means social cues and graces definitely aren't our strong suit but as any autistic will tell you, any autistic/ND person is capable of self-improvement. Anyone who says otherwise is a /shitbag/. Yes, we've done and said shitty things before because we didn't understand the ramifications of our actions, but we /learned/ from it.
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