Also I have trouble understanding more general social constructs and vague ideas like that even though I can be ok at social interaction sometimes. When thinking about stuff like that my brain just defaults to some kind of nihilism. I don't really get gender for example, although I don't really consider myself agender necessarily. To me it just seems like nothing is there and like some people have a weird secret club. There's a lot of other stuff like that I find confusing too, not just gender.
Could being bad at "normal" hygiene be an autism thing? I'm usually very organised (but only in one or two things at a time, for example uni + maybe something I'm really into atm) and tend to lose track of other things. It took me ages to make brushing teeth a habit. I also don't shower every day habitually like most people do, only when I notice that I might be dirty and I'm not really sure how often that is. I saw something in one of the posts about "executive dysfunction" and I'm wondering if that could be a thing.
More things that my girlfriend thinks are symptoms:
- I can be too loud and have trouble controlling my voice volume
- I'm bad with conveying tone sometimes and it stresses me out to have to have a "good" tone during daily social interaction
There are some things that I thought would mean that in not autistic but tbh I don't know much about autism so I would like to know if these are a thing
- I don't have "the" special interest, but I get obsessed with things every few months. Sometimes I want to talk about my hobby for hours and if I run out of stuff to talk about I repeat stuff. But it changes every couple of months.
- I think I'm actually fairly good at reading people's emotions and body language.
- I was ok at socialising as a child and had many friends. The only really obvious symptom during childhood was sensory issues. I feel like my symptoms got worse as I got older.
Hello, does anyone here know much about autism? My girlfriend is autistic and thinks I might be too, and tbh I don't really care either way if I am or if I'm not but I'm a bit curious whether she could be right.
So some things that make her believe I might be autustic:
- I have sensory issues. Sometimes they can get bad enough where I go mute or actually start being very loudly upset.
- Apparently I'm selectively mute because I stop talking in some stressful or uncomfortable situations. I think it's because I'm worried about being rude so I end up just not saying anything when I want to object.
- I repeat stuff a lot. She noticed it like the second day we met. I have trouble getting thoughts out of my head. I also get really obsessive with things.
- I get really stressed out by having my stuff moved or re-arranged.
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Sick, complaining Show more
I feel so sick that I can't sleep now :'( I'm gonna have to miss uni tomorrow too, luckily my lab partner was kind enough to let me stay home and just be online to discuss anything. Yesterday I was sick and trying to get home from uni and was stuck on the train for 2 hours with wet clothes because of a storm.
In my perfect world there would be cool vaporwave parties (with a dark quiet room at each party in case of sensory overload) where instead of gender we get nice tunes and pink lighting. Instead of gender pronouns would represent the mood of the situation (vaporwave party or normal every day situation). The two neopronouns I have in my bio are actually the pronouns I'd want in this perfect world - xe/xir feels more shiny so those are party pronouns and ne/nem are every day pronouns. Calling someone ne/nem pronouns at a party could be pretty insulting because you're basically saying they're not fun enough to party :)
I find it so disappointing that out of all the things pronouns could represent somehow we have ended up with gender. We could have pronouns that represent the relationship you have with the person you're talking about or whether they're a cat or dog person (or maybe both or neither?) or something else cool. Instead we get gender, which is a personal and sensitive subject for some people and basically gives people an excuse to try and figure out someone's gender and/or sex, which tbh, isn't any of their business in most situations. It's such a personal thing that has to be made public just so people can talk about you in third person.
Just talking about my day and my girlfriend Show more
Both my girlfriend and I got sick today :'( someone must have coughed on us on the train or something. We were able to hang out every day this week, which made me really happy. My girlfriend is honestly the best, I miss her already and I stayed over at her place this weekend, I saw her about 6 hours ago.
Injury, news, really fucked up capitalism stuff? Show more
So I just saw this article, and I'm just baffled by the fact that they cared more about her "scamming the insurance companies" and not her cutting off her whole hand???
A Slovenian woman who deliberately cut her own hand off with a circular saw to collect insurance money faces up to eight years in jail, authorities say.
Officials said family members left the severed hand behind, rather than bring it to the hospital, to ensure the disability was permanent.
But doctors recovered it in time to sew it back on.
Police said the incident happened earlier this year after the family had signed insurance contracts with five different companies.
Police said "there was no payment because we discovered the fraud in time".
Four members of the family were initially detained over the incident, but two were later released.
The other two, including the woman, face jail time if convicted.
Sex, weird not really consensual situations? Show more
I feel like some people kinda missed the point of sex positivity and took it too far... Today I mentioned that two of my friends fucked (while I was trying to sleep) in the same bed as me at a party, and this person said "well as you get older you stop getting embarrassed about sex because it's nothing to be ashamed of :)". I said "well it's something to be ashamed of if they're doing it next to random sleeping people" and then the other person said "hey, maybe it's their kink". How can people not see the difference between consensual sex and just being gross and weird? How is fucking next to unconsenting strangers nothing to be ashamed of? This misunderstanding of sex positivity is how you get people getting shamed for not wanting to partake in any fetishes and people getting shamed for being "prudes". Only 100% consensual sex is ok. It's good to be negative towards creepy non-consensual situations.
Food, my plants!!! Show more
My vegetable!!! I actually had it around a week ago or so, forgot to upload it. Made some steamed(?) vegetables with it :) it was so good!!! There are two more flowers on the plant, hopefully I'll get new ones soon :)
I have many interests (art, science, growing food), I really enjoy making things.
People should work together instead of competing and hoarding wealth.
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