I don't think I understand what "romance" is.
My best explanation has always been "the re-enactment of tropes from media that are socially coded as romantic". Buying flowers, doing the Lady & the Tramp pasta thing, etc. But it's just.. mimicry! Interested in others' hopefully more nuanced thoughts on this.
@nleigh half-joking: i'm so riddled with codependency that that definition is how I treat nearly everyone :D
I do like the definition though. It makes me think of "limerance" (re: Sun's comments). To me this really feels like how I treat friends by default, so maybe romance is... just this.. to an even higher degree? 🤷♀️
@tty lol whenever I have been asked for advice on how to start dating someone, my instinct is to just tell them to be friends… and then “friend” harder?
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