abusive family patterns (trick)
There's a handy acronym that I've built for myself to help me spot toxic behaviours: DDLIM.
Denial
Dismissiveness
Lack of empathy
Ignoring
Minimizing
abusive family patterns (trick)
It helps me remind myself that I'm not going crazy, but that my own reality & experience is being actively dismantled by others.
abusive family patterns (trick)
@tty been re-reading http://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/index.html and this is pretty solid summary
it's missing ignoring of or outrage at boundaries
it was kind of what triggered a friend's mother into a spiral of pushing everyone away and hurting them too in the process, while expecting everything to stay the same
abusive family patterns (trick)
@tty 🤦🏻♀️ good point