I don't think I understand what "romance" is.

My best explanation has always been "the re-enactment of tropes from media that are socially coded as romantic". Buying flowers, doing the Lady & the Tramp pasta thing, etc. But it's just.. mimicry! Interested in others' hopefully more nuanced thoughts on this.



@tty my aro perspective is basically that. People will say its a feeling, but idk. Afaict its just a desire for intimacy/closeness filtered, understood and performed through the tropes of romance.
I dont think romance is in any way a naturally occuring category. Its some socially constructed shit that just makes shit complicated.
It often seems like romance is just the enactement and imitation of amatonormativity.
*insert angry aro chant "abolish romance"*


@sunflower_avenue hehe, I was hoping you'd have thoughts on this Sun!

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