There's a culture of negativity forming on the fediverse, similar to other platforms. The instinct is to call attention to it and critique it, but that itself is just creating more negativity
I think a better tactic is to make a conscious effort to create and spread more positive content, even simple stuff like the plants you're growing or the meal you're having
And yes, we regularly refer to them as "the boys," collectively. It's my favorite
Sunbeam City is a anticapitalist, antifascist solarpunk instance that is run collectively.