I have thought about gender a lot but haven't read any books or anything. I keep seeing people talk about "gender as performance" and I really don't get what it means. Intuitively I'd think it means that gender is just like a role in a play that you perform, so you can "do" gender by doing certain behaviours.

However that definition seems wrong. I am not "performing" my gender in any way, I am not performing any gender. I'm just doing what I like doing, and those things are unrelated to my gender. If that's what it meant, I would have to identify as some other gender or change my behaviour. I don't want to do either of those things.

So yeah lol I think I just don't really get what that means and I get really confused every time people talk about it.